May You Find Love
On presence, contact, and the art of actually meeting someone
Tantra, the Sanskrit word itself, means weaving—to intertwine, to bring energies into contact. The practice, in its many forms, is fundamentally about presence: being genuinely in contact with what's in front of you rather than managing your experience of it. That's harder than it sounds, especially in dating, where we've built entire architectures around managing distance and saving face, like the curated profile and the filtered inbox. None of it is wrong, exactly. But it does train us out of something.
What gets trained out is the capacity to be caught off guard by a person. The awkward pause that becomes funny only because you both sat through it. The accidental honesty. The eye contact that goes a beat too long. These can't be filtered for or optimized toward. They require a room, some time, and the particular friction of actually being in front of someone and sharing their space.
The exercises in a Tantra Speed Date are designed to create those conditions deliberately—to disarm the evaluating mind before it closes the door. People walk in skeptical but most leave having made at least one connection that surprised them. Ninety-four percent report matching with someone. The number is real, and so is the look on people's faces when it happens. The question is whether you leave different than you arrived.
May is a good month to find out.
Tantra Speed Date comes to Infinite Space NYC on Saturday, May 16 at 5:30pm. Tickets can be bought using this link.